How to educate our youth about sexuality and pornography

Sex education starts early, as soon as our children want to know where do babies come from. Our answer has to be in accordance with their growth process, being as rigorous and objective as possible. A positive sex education must provide biological, social and psychological knowledge, without forgetting that sex is a source of pleasure and affection. It is recommended to pave the way and discusss it gradually so that when they reach the age of desire they have enough knowledge and parental involvement.

There are recommendations from UNESCO, research from the WHO, as well as European statistics and recommendations, which defend the need to provide sex education to boys and girls in schools and colleges. In addition, sexual rights are recognized in the fundamental right to life that is included in the Declaration of Human Rights of 1948. It is necessary to address issues related to reproduction and prevention, ask if they have sexual relations, and be sure that they are aware of sexually transmitted diseases (STD), forms of transmission, as well as different contraceptive methods.

It is usual that they reject to talk, respond with a leave me alone or with a silence. However embarrassing it may be, it is important to be able to transmit our advice and knowledgement, as in any other fundamental aspect of their lives.

Friends have always been the main source of sexual knowledge. But today, the internet is an unprecedented challenge that we must be confront. The unrestrained access and high spread of pornography has notably impacted on our sexuality. The sexual pedagogy in the age of online porn must take into account its great influence on young people and work so that they do not obtain misconceptions about sex.

Some of the key aspects that we will have to be sonsidered are the promotion of gender equality, with special attention to the prevention of gender-based violence, aggression and sexual abuse, the recognition and acceptance of sexual diversity, and the harmonious development of sexuality according to their own personality. Pornography must be understood as a fiction show that represents fantasies but that does not necessarily correspond to the sexual desires and needs of people.

Let us consider some of the statistics regarding the consumption of porn among young people (between 18 and 22 years old) published by the Spanish porn website Orgasmatrix, rated XXX:

  • 90% of young men and 65% of young women have consumed online pornography.
  • 95% watch porn at free websites such as Porno 5k. The rest are subscribed to paysites.
  • 70% admit to having deleted their Internet history to hide their activity online.
  • 90% have watched anal sex schenes on free porn sites.
  • 68% of young men aged 18 to 24 visit pornographic websites at least once a month.
  • 46% of young women aged 18 to 24 visit pornographic websites at least once a month.
  • None of the previous users report being addicted to porn.

In sumary, whether we like it or not, young people consume porn. Therefore, pornography will be part of their sex life. Instead of recriminate, it would be better to discuss it as any other aspect of sexuality, with information, dialogue and understanding. Only then will we ensure that young people enjoy a healthy and positive sex life.